As a modern society we have so many things vying for our attention.
Whether its work, relationships, kids, parents or social media – people and things are always chipping away at our time. This time lost has resulted in neglect.
Neglect is subtle, and when left unchanged, slowly hurts and even kills many people. We must stop this NOW!
What is Neglect?
Neglect can be defined as the result of carelessness, indifference, or unwillingness. Neglect can also mean the failure to care for properly (verb) or the state or fact of being uncared for (noun).
How does this happen? Neglect
creeps into our lives daily as we
consistently put off our basic
human needs.
We will make necessary sacrifices for those we love or care for, but won’t do the things necessary to nurture and grow ourselves. When we put our needs and wants on the back burner we effectively deny ourselves self-love. This is not as honorable as some may think and in the long run hurts those we love.
In relationships we sacrifice for our spouses; as parents we sacrifice for our children, despite the children being independent; we sacrifice our time with our spouses and children for our aging parents; and finally, as employees we sacrifice our time, energy, our peace of mind and even our health for our employers or our businesses.
It’s
Time
for
change!
Many are unknowingly walking around with anxiety and depression and don’t even know it!
Neglect shows up in many areas of our lives. It shows in the way we treat ourselves; what we eat; what we tell ourselves regarding the relationships we have; our attitudes; our appearance and even in our beliefs.
The vicious cycle of neglect, where we tell ourselves “one day” we will do what we really want, has to end. Such neglect examples include statements like:
“One day” we will start our diet or make that lifestyle change.
“One day” we will take time for ourselves and go on that vacation.
“One day” we will get the job we desire or start working that business idea.
Time is precious, and neglect steals time away from us and stops us from achieving the happiness we deserve.
The truth is we can’t keep telling ourselves that we are happy taking care of others while we drown in our own emotions due to neglect. Everyone wants and should experience life at its optimal level. The only way we can begin to see change is if we start taking better care of ourselves, by putting us first!
Better care of ourselves means better care for those we love.
We are more in control of our lives than we think. It is within our own power and in our own best interest to take immediate action now and turn the neglectful saying of “one day” into a prosperous “TODAY!”
This read is so timely…I put myself on the back burner too often but am getting in the habit of putting my goals first…it’s a process but I’m slowly making progress.
Thanks
Congrats on taking the first step toward giving yourself self-love by recognizing you need to make a change.
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I imagine many can relate to this article, I certainly can.
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Thanks for this Kev… Great read, very insightful & mind opening—I’ve got to do better… #selflove…
I appreciate that Kim. If you know of someone that can benefit from this article please share with them. Thank you.
I can see this. If it gets to that period assistance is available to help shift the help needed out to agencies, family members and support groups.
You are absolutely correct Sheila. Our goal is to remind people that they are not effective when they are overwhelmed. All to often people remain in the “fog of war” not being able to see the exit or relief. They are so busy with their problems that they neglect to pull away from their circumstances to ask for help or don’t seek assistance at all. There are also those who feel that no one can “rectify” the situation as good as they can and so they make a decision to “bear the burden.”
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This is powerful. I neglected myself for far too long but those days are in the past. Thank you for this motivational message. I will share in the hopes that it will inspire someone else
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This is such a powerful and well needed message to so many!! Thank you for reminding us that it’s ok to be a little selfish!
Excellent read. Thanks for sharing thoughts.
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