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Make The Leap

Make The Leap

by | Aug 31, 2019 | Depression, Happiness, Health, Mental health, Mindfulness, Self-awareness, Self-Love, Wealth, Women

What is the boiling Frog Syndrome?

Frogs are very similar to humans in that they can adapt to their environments depending on the situation.

If you threw a frog into a pot of boiling water it would jump out. 

However, if you were to put a frog in a pot of cool water and then heated the water, as the temperature of the water rises, the frog is able to adjust its body temperature accordingly.

The frog continues to adjust as the temperature increases.  Just when the water is about to reach boiling point, the frog is not able to adjust anymore.

At that point the frog decides to jump out.

When the frog attempts to jump however, it is unable to do so.  It has lost all its strength in adjusting with the water temperature.

As a consequence… the frog dies.

What is a silent heart attack?

“A heart attack does not always have obvious symptoms, such as pain in your chest, shortness of breath and cold sweats. In fact, a heart attack can actually happen without a person knowing it. It is called a silent heart attack, or medically referred to as silent ischemia (lack of oxygen) to the heart muscle.” –https://www.goredforwomen.org/en/about-heart-disease-in-women/facts/silent-heart-attack-symptoms-risks

As humans we naturally adapt to our situations or environments similar to the frog. 

Some are in toxic relationships, friendships, jobs and environments, and as opposed to doing something to change the situation, they instead adapt and conform.

When we stay in any environment for too long we began to look for the positives in the situation and begin to rationalize and say things like, “oh, this isn’t so bad” or  “I can handle this.”

The truth is a piece of us dies every day the longer we remain in our stressful environments.  Stress slowly an unknowingly creeps in; this is equivalent to the water boiling. 

We get so tired that even attempting to change the situation seems exhausting, and so we do nothing.

We say things like “one day” or “someday.” Our thoughts immobilize us and before you know it stress (heat) increases and either a stroke or heart attack occurs. 

We slowly get cooked alive and our  hopes and dreams begin to die with us.  “One day” never comes!

Paralysis by analysis

Some of us get paralyzed just thinking about how to make or take the next steps. We over think and over analyze, called paralysis by analysis.

The truth is we just need to change our energy and environments and get around people who can help us change our circumstances. It just requires us to extend our hands out to ask for and receive the help we need.

If you’re not asking for help, you’re probably not challenging yourself enough; if you have all the answers, you’re not learning new skills, trying new things, or moving forward and out of your comfort zone.

We have the greatest resource given to mankind, our mind!  Don’t be like the frog – LEAP! while you still have the energy to do so!

Weight Loss

Weight Loss

by | Apr 4, 2019 | Depression, Happiness, Health, Mental health, Mindfulness, Self-awareness, Self-Love, Women

Life has no remote; You have to get up and change it yourself!

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Before launching a Space Shuttle into orbit,  NASA has to create enough energy to move the shuttle from the launching pad and into the air and further into the orbit. Once the shuttle is in orbit the energy required to launch it is no longer needed. The shuttle can now use less energy while maintaining momentum toward its destination.
 
 
 
 
 
Like the Space Shuttle, if we are to make change in our lives we must first put forth the initial energy required to start us on our journey toward our destination or goal.  Once we break through the barriers of resistance we can decrease some of the energy that was required to get us started.
 
 

 

What are the steps necessary to tackle weight lost?

 

When deciding to tackle weight lost and take control of your health, the first thing that needs to happen is a Mindshift.  You need to get F.E.D. Up and say enough is enough! When we’re F.E.D. Up, we no longer believe in self-sabotaging behavior or habits that help create the situations we are currently regretting.

F.E.D. Up is an acronym and principle which means to apply Focus. Execution. and Discipline to achieve any goal we set for ourselves in life.

Losing weight requires us to become F.E.D. Up.

  • Deciding you will cut out those foods that add to your weight gain, and no longer visit those fast food restaurants that serve mostly processed foods is how you Focus.
  • Deciding to evaluate your eating habits and create or follow a meal plan, is how you Execute.
  •  Discipline in sticking with your meal plan, is how you reach your goal of becoming healthier and happier.

If you want to lose weight, do this: Get moving!

Find some space on the floor in your home; grab a yoga mat and kettle bells or dumbbells and use a HIIT (High Intensity Interval Training) workout for the next month. Once you begin to master those exercises with good form, increase your reps or move on to a more advanced HIIT workout. Want to add resistance bands – grab these.  If you require more resistance and or a challenge – grab these.  The latter bands are some of the thickest strongest bands I’ve ever used.  You can purchase a single band, a pack of 3, 4 or 5 for varying degrees of resistance.  Also, these bands are excellent for beginners or those of you looking to increase your pull-ups!
 
Go outside or go to the gym.  Get some comfortable clothing, sneakers, grab a pedometer to track your steps. If you’re just starting out, shoot for a daily target of 8000 steps working your way up to 10,000 or more. Grab this fanny pack to hold your valuables on your person as opposed to leaving them in the locker room when going to the gym. Don’t forget your water bottle and gloves.
 

Follow a meal plan.  You can download one here.

Remember to be patient with yourself whenever you start anything new.  Our brains want to protect us and so it will make several attempts to return us back to our old self, along with the old habits which present the least amount of resistance.  Like any muscle, resistance is required for growth, our brains are no different.  Forming a new habit will take time for your brain to adjust.  You will eventually build up the mental fortitude to reach your goal as long as you remain F.E.D. Up!
 
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New Year, New You!

New Year, New You!

by | Jan 6, 2019 | Happiness, Health, Mindfulness, Self-awareness, Self-Love, Wealth

HEALTH, WEALTH & HAPPINESS


The New Year is always a good time to reflect and review your past so you can make better plans for the future. Going through the daily grind each day, each week, each month and year can really take a toll on you.


Without knowing we develop habits that either help or hurt us in making progress in life.


Well, it’s a New Year to start over and make the changes to become a New You!


Getting started isn’t as complicated as it may seem. We sometimes overthink tasks to the point we quit before we get started. This is common and easy to overcome. How so? Stop overthinking!


What is your philosophy or attitude toward your life in the areas of health, wealth and happiness? How do you feel about the past? Don’t let the past stop you from moving forward in the future. Instead, let the past be like a school master or a teacher, showing you where you made a wrong turn or how you can do things differently.

HEALTH

A simple formula toward improving our health:

Exercise – Start walking for 30 minutes or more. Is it really that simple? YES!

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Here’s how we fail:

Should I walk around the block? Could I walk around the block? Don’t walk around the block!

What to eat: Fill up on fruits and vegetables throughout the day. Eat one or two apples and a banana in the morning for breakfast. Eat a grilled chicken, tuna or salmon salad for lunch. For dinner, fill your plate with mostly vegetables and your choice of meat as a protein. The idea is to fill your plate with half vegetables and half lean protein. Carbs such as rice and potatoes, should be limited to two tablespoons or eliminated all together if you eat after 8 pm. Repeating this each day, week and month will bring about the changes we are looking for and a healthier you.

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Here’s how we fail:

Should I eat the Apple? Could I eat the Apple? Won’t eat the Apple!


Don’t overthink it! An easy task delayed for several years brings about disaster…and unwanted weight and health issues.

Discipline, commitment and action!!!

HAPPINESS

Here’s how to create and design a life where you experience more happiness than hurt. Ask yourself when making decisions: will this benefit, hurt or have no affect on my future?

What and who should I eliminate from my life that hinders me? Start with yourself first – your habits, thoughts and how you speak to yourself; and then people.

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Here’s how we fail:

Should I make a commitment to improve myself? Do I have the time to make the commitment? Don’t make the commitment!

 How do you feel about your future? Your goals? Are you committed to achieving your goals or just interested? Remember that when we take hesitant steps it stalls our future and delays our happiness.

Never be hard on yourself and understand your self-worth.

Key point to remember: your self-worth is not determined by your circumstances, environment or by anyone other than yourself!

All relationships require time, patience and love – start with YOU first!

Start living your best life this year.

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You Are Dying!

You Are Dying!

by | Nov 25, 2018 | Mindfulness, Self-awareness, Self-Love

We are going thru life on autopilot following the so called “rules” of life – going to school, getting a job and getting married – without asking ourselves, ” what exactly do I want for my life?”

Everyday we are waking up with the same habits and actions that have caused us to get in a rut.

Many of these habits are causing us mental, physical and financial stress…and we are slowly dying because of it.

We do it because this is what is normal; our parents did it and their parents did it. The truth is, times have changed dramatically.

Some of these rules or beliefs have served us well, while others no longer serve us in this day and age.

 

Live with Intention

 

In his book, The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business, Charles Duhigg provides massive research and gives deep insight regarding our habits and how to make change. 

Now is the time to start living with intention.

We must stop eating foods that are zapping our energy and causing us to gain weight.

We must stop buying things that we think will bring us happiness but instead only push us further into debt and ultimately delay our financial goals.

Helping others is fine, however, we must stop doing for others when we know we are not meeting our own needs.

Continued behavior patterns like the ones mentioned above can lead to a host of issues later in life, including regret, resentment and depression.

Take Inventory, Then Action

What do you want in life?  Where and how do you see yourself in 2-5 years?  What are you going to do daily, weekly, monthly or yearly to make progress toward that 2-5 year goal?

What easy task that you know you could or should be doing that will make a change in your life? Do what you can? Do the best you can?

What is your philosophy or attitude toward change?

How do you feel about the past? Let the past act as a school master teaching you which actions hurt you and those that help you to improve.

Remember, if we take hesitant steps during this process it stalls our future.

Living with intention requires us to actively monitor our lives eliminating anything and anyone that causes us to fall back into a rut.

Don’t Stop Living…Before You Stop Living!

Are You Compromising Your Freedom

Are You Compromising Your Freedom

by | Nov 18, 2018 | Depression, Mental health, Mindfulness, Self-awareness, Self-Love, Women

Humans are social creatures; this is how we were able to dominate other species and build the world we live in today.  Making connections and learning from one another is how we grow.  Applying and incorporating this knowledge into our personal lives is how we continue to make progress reaching higher personal achievements.  We don’t adapt at the same rate for various reasons – including ignoring solutions for improvement and resistance to change.  Unknowingly this behavior eventually leads to dependency on external things and people for our progress and growth in life.

Reliance on others vs. Self-Reliance

Relying on external things and people to improve our lives effectively gives the thing or person control over our life and our happiness!  If our happiness is solely determined by some external factor or person then they can also determine when we are sad, depressed, regretful or moody.  Eventually realizing we are not in control over our lives and emotions as we thought, we become angry, bitter or resentful.

Self-Reliance is defined as “reliance on one’s own power and resources rather than those of others.”  in his essay, “Self-Reliance,” philosopher Ralph Waldo Emerson argues that polite society has an adverse effect on one’s personal growth. Self-sufficiency, he writes, gives one the freedom to discover one’s true self and attain true independence.”

We all can think of a time when we made a decision that benefited someone else or the group as a whole but we ourselves were not in total agreement.  It’s not until we reflect on our circumstances or where we are in life that we conclude the decision we made in the past was not in our best interest.  To be altruistic, which is putting another’s or a groups’ self interest above your own, is not a bad thing.  Altruism can bring both joy and pain

Freedom of Expression

For example: If you took a happy friendly dog and put him in a cage all year long, only feeding him to keep him alive, the dog will become unfriendly, depressed and possibly aggressive.  Taking not only the dog’s freedom and freedom of expression away from him puts him in a state that is counter to what he is. Dogs love to roam and explore and can be extremely friendly – this is their nature. They don’t call them man’s best friend for nothing.

We are not dogs.  We react however, like the caged dog when we allow things and people to put us in a cage taking away our freedom and freedom of expression.  Like the nature of the dog, we humans love companionship, are friendly and enjoy roaming and exploring new things – this is our nature. What’s encouraging to know is the fact that what distinguishes us from a dog or any animal is that we have the power to use our mind to effectively change our environments and circumstances.

Using Mindfulness

Activating the power of our mind allows us to develop strategies which we can use to change our situations in life.  This is called using mindfulness. Through mindfulness we can slow the world down to evaluate what is going on in our lives and our environment.  This evaluation gives us direction which we can take action to change or improve the things we are not satisfied with.  When we take action, we effectively take control over our lives and freedom which ultimately improves our happiness.

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Practicing Self-awareness

Practicing Self-awareness

by | Nov 10, 2018 | Mindfulness, Self-awareness, Self-Love

Our world is constantly bombarded by information provided by media, entertainment on TV and social media.  This content is created and broadcast to keep us informed and entertained – and it’s doing an exceptional job at doing so.

We are so entertained and distracted by media that many of us have delayed doing the things that would improve our lives.  Instead, we spend hours, days and even years doing things that add no growth or value to our lives.

Consequently, we complain that we have no time to devote to ourselves for self-improvement.  We say things like, “there’s no time to do that”, “there’s no time to work on that project” or “I have no time to develop a financial plan.”  Unknowingly we stop ourselves from doing the things which may bring us the happiness we are looking for.

Why do we make so many excuses for not doing the things we know would improve our lives and make us happier?

As we experience life we develop and incorporate behaviors and habits, good or bad, as a part of being conditioned by external factors.  Conditioning occurs through the interaction with our environments and is the root of learned behavior.

We have been conditioned by media, old philosophies and traditions taught and passed down to us by our parents, family and in our schools.  Some conditioning at one point in time had its place, but no longer serve us currently.  The lives we live are not our own; instead it is the life that has been pre -designed by external factors, rather than our own internal factors.  This is causing us to go through life on auto-pilot and living a life of unhappiness.

Take Control

If we are to get the “good life” we must take control of our lives in the areas of Health, Wealth and Happiness.  We have more control over our lives than we think.  The power to create our own beliefs, philosophies and traditions is within our control.  Our happiness can be determined by our decisions and actions.

Where to Start?

Every one of us needs direction and balance in life to gain true happiness and receive the “good life.” Here are some steps to start your journey:

First, understand and recognize that if you continue to make excuses and procrastinate you will only delay your happiness.

Second, decide to quiet the noise in your life.  Find a quiet place to control your thoughts and evaluate where you are and what you want in life.

Third, get clarity and develop a sense of purpose in life.  This will help to provide a road map for your life.

Finally, ACT! Begin to actively and consistently charge forward using the road map as a guide, which will keep you on course and direct the path of your life in the areas of health, wealth and happiness.

Patience Required

It’s important to note that you should be very patient with yourself during this process.  It may take some time and may even be painful to address but will help you design your best life.  Making a decision to commit and building a life influenced by internal factors rather than external factors, is how we regain control over our life instead of letting life control us.